Appreciating the Man I Married

This week Bill and I are on vacation. It’s a simple pause before the upcoming Beauty Treatments Retreat—a moment to breathe, rest, and prepare our hearts for what the Lord is about to do in the lives of the women who will gather. But in the quiet of this week, I’ve found myself reflecting on something very personal. The man I married.

Life moves quickly. Responsibilities grow. Families expand. Ministry opportunities increase. Schedules fill. And sometimes, if we’re not careful, we can begin to move through life alongside our spouse without pausing to truly appreciate them. Not because love has faded—but because life has become full.

This week has reminded me how grateful I am for Bill. His steady presence. His patience. His kindness. His willingness to support both our family and the ministry God has entrusted to us. He doesn’t always seek recognition, but his quiet faithfulness speaks volumes. This is the pillar of praise in action.

One of the subtle dangers in long marriages is assumption. We assume our spouse knows we appreciate them. We assume they understand how much they mean to us. We assume there will always be another opportunity to say the words we feel. But gratitude should never be left unsaid. Appreciation breathes life into a relationship. It reminds our spouse that their presence, their sacrifices, and their love are seen.

Scripture continually reminds us to give thanks. Not only for big blessings, but for the everyday gifts that sustain us. A faithful partner is one of those gifts. Just as the Lord remains faithful to His people, marriage invites us to reflect that same faithfulness toward each other—through patience, kindness, and gratitude. When we stop to appreciate our spouse, we are acknowledging the goodness of God in our lives.

Take a moment to consider:

• When was the last time I intentionally thanked my spouse for who they are?

• Do I notice the ways they quietly serve our family or support our life together?

• What words of appreciation might encourage their heart today?

Sometimes a simple sentence can mean everything.

"I’m grateful for you."

Marriage is a journey made up of many seasons. Busy seasons. Quiet seasons. Joyful seasons. Challenging seasons. In every one of them, appreciation has the power to renew love.

This week, as I prepare for the retreat and enjoy this time away, my heart is simply grateful.

Grateful for the man God gave me. Grateful for the life we’ve built together. And grateful for the reminder to never take that gift for granted.

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